Rituals and safety of women

 Hi lovelies

This upload would be kind of somber and a tad bit longer! A video circulated last week, in the video a young girl could be seen vibing with her boyfriend in a car. Shortly after the video, the girl was found murdered with her eyes gouged out and her boyfriend nowhere to be found as he was the last person to see her alive.

Now, Nigerians have turned it into an opportunity to preach ‘stay with your broke boyfriend’ or ‘be content’ yada yada yada. I hate when something like this comes up and Nigerian men especially decide that the victim is to be blamed.

Had it been that the girl did not document her last waka with the boy, that’s how people would have termed her ‘olosho’.

Now, Nigerian men are saying stay with your broke boyfriend or stop ‘chilling with the big boys’ but both rich men and broke men do evil killings. In essence, women should stop talking to men abi? This was a man the girl trusted, her boyfriend, her partner! So if she can’t hang with her boyfriend then that is telling on the gender not the woman

Let’s also not act like in this part of the world, poor men are not doing ritual killings to have a taste of wealth and rich men are not doing it to ‘plus up’( that is to stay rich or become richer). Notice how the problem is not the victim because it could be a broke man or a rich man committing the atrocities. These things like HIV are not written on the forehead. 

Men perpetuate evil against women and somehow the woman who is a victim is to be blamed. That’s telling on the type of society Nigeria is. We can’t keep blaming the women. 

Say she wants to chill with the big boys sef, how’s that a problem? We all want to chill with the big boys because that’s how you make connections to be a big boy too na. As a society, we’ve learnt to size people by their pockets and if they appear to be buoyant, we (men and women alike) begin to twerk on their dicks. 

Let’s stop making it a first reaction to blame the injured party/victim, that’s just wrong and does not tell well on your person. It’s giving ‘what was she wearing’ vibes

I hope we as a society do better in protecting our women. And stop victim blaming

I love y’all 

Bye for now

Ciao

Adios amigos